Getting married at a young age, no wedding present from me!
What is the deal with young marriages, I just dont fu@king get it....
A couple that has been dating since they were 16 years old, now they are 21...wow, FIVE years...congratulations! Many arent done school, dont have good jobs, more or less miles away from a stable career and a good financial situation. Why not just sit back, relax...enjoy your relationship and when the time is right, get married...go nuts, whats the rush.
Another common mistake, marrying someone without ever LIVING with them... If this doesnt scare you, chances are you have never had a roommmate. Ever hear of best friends that arent good friends anymore, chances are...they made the mistake of moving in with one another.
Everybody needs time to grow alone. To be a kid. Meet guys and girls....have a good time, not have to report to someone, explain yourself and all that kinda jazz. basically to be young and dumb. when youre with someone for 5 years plus with someone since the age of 17, you havent even had the chance to experience YOU, more or less a lot of the other things that life has to offer. which is why 10 years down the road, many are in bad marriages and soon divorced...wanting to hit up the clubs, be social and do all the things they should have been doing when they were twenty, but couldnt...because they were living the latter part of their lives when they should have been living out their youth.
CASE AND POINT: a lot of these relationships are heading towards marriage without due process, not to say that everyone has to follow the same steps; but just like everything else in life...there is common ground, the basics...many which are just getting tossed aside for the sake of "something more" If you love someone and you plan on being with them the rest of your life (average lifetime being roughly 75 years) you have a solid 5o years of life together...so why rush it after 3-5. There is no need to get married before you have an established career, no need if youre not financially stable and no need to push deadlines forward for the sake of.
If i have a daughter, and she wants to marry some high school sweetheart or someone long term from a young age...she will get my blessing. she WONT get my checkbook.... Ill pay for the second wedding LoL. Chances are if you cant afford your own wedding, that would be another red flag...and you probably shouldnt be getting married :D
Big Mouth.
A couple that has been dating since they were 16 years old, now they are 21...wow, FIVE years...congratulations! Many arent done school, dont have good jobs, more or less miles away from a stable career and a good financial situation. Why not just sit back, relax...enjoy your relationship and when the time is right, get married...go nuts, whats the rush.
Another common mistake, marrying someone without ever LIVING with them... If this doesnt scare you, chances are you have never had a roommmate. Ever hear of best friends that arent good friends anymore, chances are...they made the mistake of moving in with one another.
Everybody needs time to grow alone. To be a kid. Meet guys and girls....have a good time, not have to report to someone, explain yourself and all that kinda jazz. basically to be young and dumb. when youre with someone for 5 years plus with someone since the age of 17, you havent even had the chance to experience YOU, more or less a lot of the other things that life has to offer. which is why 10 years down the road, many are in bad marriages and soon divorced...wanting to hit up the clubs, be social and do all the things they should have been doing when they were twenty, but couldnt...because they were living the latter part of their lives when they should have been living out their youth.
CASE AND POINT: a lot of these relationships are heading towards marriage without due process, not to say that everyone has to follow the same steps; but just like everything else in life...there is common ground, the basics...many which are just getting tossed aside for the sake of "something more" If you love someone and you plan on being with them the rest of your life (average lifetime being roughly 75 years) you have a solid 5o years of life together...so why rush it after 3-5. There is no need to get married before you have an established career, no need if youre not financially stable and no need to push deadlines forward for the sake of.
If i have a daughter, and she wants to marry some high school sweetheart or someone long term from a young age...she will get my blessing. she WONT get my checkbook.... Ill pay for the second wedding LoL. Chances are if you cant afford your own wedding, that would be another red flag...and you probably shouldnt be getting married :D
Big Mouth.
posted by Big mouth | 11:29 AM
2 Comments:
I wounder if you thought of what happend to me as you wrote this post. I totaly feel the whole going out to clubs thing now.
Alex
I was that 16 year old you describe. I agree with everything you said. Having lived it first-hand, and also having analyzed my bahaviours and choices over and over again, the most evident "excuse" for having chosen that path, is that as a very stubborn teen, it doesn't matter who tries to convince you that you may not be making the right choices, you truly think YOU know what is best for you.
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